Have you ever noticed the eyes of people who are lost? Whether they be requesting physical or emotional direction there is an intensity in their gaze that is hungry for knowledge. They wait in anticipation on your every word contemplating over the insightful information that may lead them to their destination. The pitch black route towards their destination scares them; somewhere along this rigid path they make a wrong turn and no longer know which direction to go. You happen to intersect them on this lonely road and their eyes light up with hope.
The lost eyes look at you as if you are the only person in the world that will understand them. The stranger maintains an eye lock with you searching for an answer in your eyes; he believes you are going to deliver a message that will lead him to salvation. You have never crossed paths with this stranger, but you feel this immediate bond with him. Each time you look into his perplexed eyes you feel a certain familiarity that you can not identify. His lost eyes are captivating and you have no control over yourself; each time you try to walk away from this stranger fate seems to pull you by the arm and redirect you back to him.
As you guide this individual to his destination you learn more about the stranger and even more about yourself. You never thought you had the inner strength to support and encourage an individual to acquire a destination in their life. You did not know that it would feel so rewarding to watch someone taking steps closer and closer to their goal. One day your journey with this stranger ends, he has finally arrived at his destination. There he stands beaming with fulfillment and pouring gratitude through his once lost eyes. You feel a sense of pride and joy; these emotions escape your eyes and fall to the ground. Then you realize why the lost eyes were so appealing and why you were initially drawn to this stranger. Those lost eyes contained a reflection of you. Your soul was drawn to aid this stranger because you saw your own lost eyes in his. The journey towards the strangers destination was never just for him. You were never helping a stranger; you were helping yourself . . .
Everyone has experienced the feeling of being lost in life. Sadly, not many people are found or guided and their journey never seems to end. When you see someone with lost eyes be the bridge that will lead them to their destination.
“If you need a helping hand, along the way and I’m the one, I’ll be your soldier, I’ll fight all your best Till freedom come, and if you need some shelter Cause, Coming storm I’ll be your cover keep ya, Safe and warm I’ll be close by, Any time, Night or day I’ll be that bridge That take you over the mountain I’ll lift you up, and take you over the top”
William Shakespeare once said that the eyes are the windows to our soul, but do people actually look through these “windows”? I believe that the eyes are the windows to the soul, but they are often neglected during physical conversations. People tend to focus on the verbal relayed messages rather than the nonverbal emotions that are pouring out of someones eyes. When someone speaks through their eyes the emotions intermingle with the verbal message to create such an intensity that impacts a listener in a more effective way. Have you ever noticed the focus, determination, and confidence in athletes and famous leaders? Whether they are talking or just posing in a picture the emotions in the eyes are so visible and strong that the words do not even matter anymore.
It is not what you say it is how you say it. With this said, it is important for us as listeners to make sure that the message a speaker delivers is confirmed by their eyes. An individuals’ eyes may show negative emotions like: pain, sorrow, lost hope, stress, shattered confidence, lack of will power, but their verbal statements might contradict the eyes. When you inquire if there is an issue bothering the individual, he or she may reply by saying “I am fine”, but their eyes beg to differ.
The eyes are the windows to the soul and the soul is connected to the heart. Words are connected to the mouth and mind. We can control the words that come out of the mouth with our mind but, we cannot control the messages of our heart, soul, and eyes. It is essential to understand a speakers verbal emotions in a message as well as the nonverbal. Most people are not able to convey their inner feelings easily and may not want to, which is why it is important for us to “peek through the windows”.
While some windows are crystal clear others are tinted. Similarly to tinted windows there are differences of color, shape, and size in eyes. These types of differences act as barriers between a listener and the emotions of an individual. Beautiful alterations in eyes act as defense mechanism to divert a listener from looking through the “windows”. Individuals are so distracted by the physical perplexing beauty of eyes they forget eyes are windows that display powerful emotions. We should not fall victim to physical beauty, always look through the windows of an individuals soul and do not be distracted by “tinted windows” and emotionless verbal messages.
Inspiration for post: The Hulk and his “tinted windows”
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